Why Not Me?

It’s been almost a year since my last post - and if you only knew how much has shifted. Life’s been good. I’m healthy, I’m growing, and still walking my own road. I will share with you my life updates in further posts.

This week, something clicked. I finally sat down, logged in, and felt like I had something real to share. What follows isn’t just another blog post - it’s a collection of the most thought-provoking ideas from a conversation between Naval Ravikant and Chris Williamson.

These lines I share have a deep reflection in my own life. They made me pause, and feel more alive, appreciate the journey. Maybe they will do the same for you.

Why Not You?

I came across something that stuck with me:

“Someone out there has to be the happiest person in the world. Why not me?”

That’s from an interview, but honestly, it could’ve come from a close friend during a late-night walk. It just hits that way - simple, obvious, and a little uncomfortable. Because it invites you to ask: Why not me? Or better yet: Why not you?

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The Two Roads

There’s this idea Naval shares—two ways to be happy:

1. Get what you want.
2. Want less.

A lot of us grow up focused on the first. Chase the dream job. Hit the goals. Get the money, the body, the status. But then what? Most of us know that feeling—you get the thing, and a few weeks later, it’s just... normal. The loop resets. You want the next thing.

The second path is quieter. Wanting less. Not in a defeatist way, but in a freeing way. Like looking around and thinking, “Actually, I’m good.” The real trick is learning to blend the two—creating from a place of peace, not pressure.

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Happiness Is a Skill

Naval says something along the lines of:

“If you’re so smart, why aren’t you happy?”

That hit. It’s easy to overthink, to optimise, to build systems and schedules and plans. But if all of that still leads to anxiety, self-doubt, or numbness... what’s the point?

Happiness isn’t just a feeling—it’s a skill. Something you practice. Something you build like muscle. And it doesn’t mean being cheerful 24/7. It means being present. Being honest. Being kind—to yourself first, so you can be better with others.

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The Reputation You Have With Yourself

One of my favourite lines:

“Self-esteem is the reputation you have with yourself.”

That explains so much. Why some people move with quiet confidence and others crumble even with praise. We’re all watching ourselves, all the time. Every promise kept or broken, every compromise, every time we show up or flake—it all adds up.

You don’t need the world to clap for you if you know you’re doing the right thing. But if you’re performing for approval, or living on autopilot, that gap between who you are and who you pretend to be starts to hurt.

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What’s Actually Worth Wanting?

A question I’ve been asking lately: Is this something I truly want—or something I picked up from someone else?

Naval talks about “mimetic desires”—wants we inherit from friends, society, social media. Wanting to be rich because it looks good. Wanting to be famous because it feels like validation. But strip that down, and you might find the actual desire is for freedom, connection, or self-expression.

It’s worth checking: Am I climbing the right mountain?

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A Message for Someone Who Might Need It

If you’re reading this and life feels a little cloudy—pause for a second. You’re not behind. You’re not broken. You’re just in the middle, like the rest of us.

You don’t need a master plan. You just need presence. A bit of honesty. A bit of courage to live by your own rhythm.

Start saying yes to what makes you feel expansive—people who light you up, projects that feel like play, quiet mornings that feel like home.

And say no—gently but firmly—to anything that pulls you away from your peace: empty obligations, guilt-soaked favors, the voice that says you should when you really don’t want to.

You don’t have to earn joy. You just have to stop pushing it away.

The lightness you’re looking for? It starts with appreciating exactly where you are—and letting that be enough. From that place, everything flows easier. Work becomes clearer. Love becomes softer. Life becomes... yours.

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Final thought:
You’re not here to perform. You’re here to experience. To create. To love.
And that version of you - the one who chooses joy and means it?
That’s the real success story.

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